Triggers, open energy centers, and the “inner work” that actually works

Why your triggers aren’t the problem—and how human design shows you exactly where to start unraveling the real shit.

Any of these sound familiar?

• imposter syndrome

• the feeling of “not enoughness”

• self-worth issues, or low self-esteem/confidence

• shamed for being multi-directional instead of linear

• changing your mind often, and be chastised for it

• feeling behind in life

• fear of rejection

• feeling rudderless or directionless

• co-dependency

• carrying other people’s emotional baggage

• not knowing when enough is enough

• hanging onto relationships, jobs, or habits that aren’t good for you

• feeling like you have to hurry for everything

• self-sabotage

• substance abuse

• anxiousness

• chronic fatigue or illness

• a sense of lack

• hypochondria

• people-pleasing

• lazy/not motivated

• being called a conspiracy theorist

• gullible and/or naive

• trying to prove yourself, constantly

• trying to keep up with everyone else’s pace in life

• self-diagnosing anything and everything

---

These aren’t character flaws. They’re symptoms of conditioning.

Aka, the baggage we carry from family, teachers, society, etc.—and it seeps in through our open energy centers.

I discovered there’s a clear correlation between:
👉 the triggers that get under our skin
👉 the symptoms we keep repeating
👉 the conditioning we’ve absorbed
👉 and the open center where the real inner work lies

Here’s a real-life example (straight from my own life):

I used to get so triggered by my older brother when he would talk about himself—job stuff, hunting stories, whatever.

For years, I thought he was just being narcissistic. But eventually, it clicked as to why:

The trigger was him talking about himself.
The symptom was me shrinking, judging, or getting irritated.
The real conditioning?
I’d been told (by him), as a kid, not to talk about myself because it was considered braggy, boastful, or narcissistic, and I took it as gospel.
So I internalized the belief that talking about my experiences was a bad thing.

Any time I had to share or speak up—whether in school, running a workshop, or any other form of public speaking—I’d clam up. Stammer. Feel nauseous.

Then one day I realized:
He hadn’t told me that to be mean or malicious—he was trying to protect me!
He was probably told the same thing as a kid, so he was just doing big brother stuff, thinking he was helping.
But my dick brain took it as something else. 😅

A snippet of my own chart—the upside-down triangle is the Open Mind/Ajna and it’s my Achilles heal 😅

I used my human design chart and traced that whole pattern back to my open Mind center—
the part of me that’s prone to taking in other people’s beliefs as truth.
Being gullible and/or naive? Yep.

And once I saw that? I was finally able to unhook from it and loosen its grip.

---

And here’s the thing:
I didn’t just study this stuff—I lived it.
To help others unravel their patterns, I had to start by unraveling my own bullshit.

💥 Here’s the kicker…

My most important gift—Gate 35—is literally about sharing lived experiences.
Like this one! 🤯

Seriously, you cannot make this shit up.
But that one childhood moment dimmed that gift for decades.

I have the full 35–36 channel, connecting my Emotional Center to my Throat.
I’m designed to speak from emotion, from experience, from truth.
Not to be braggy—but to move people.
To show them what’s possible for themselves.

When I finally deconditioned from the ‘belief’ that “sharing my experiences was wrong,” I felt like I could breathe again.
And honestly? That shift cracked open a whole new chapter in my work and my business.

---

Triggers aren’t the enemy, they’re your ally.
They’re intel.
They’re the fast track to pointing you back to the part of you that’s still carrying stuff that isn’t you. You know, like the shit that’s still living rent-free in your head.

---

So the next time you get triggered, try this:

Instead of spiraling or stuffing it back down, break it down:

1. The Trigger – What happened? What poked the wound?

2. The Symptom – What emotion, thought, or reaction bubbled up?

3. The Conditioning – What belief or message might still be running the show?

4. The Open Center – Where in your human design chart might you be absorbing something that was never yours?

💡 That’s where the real inner work begins.

Your triggers aren’t proof that something’s wrong with you.
They’re pointing you to where you can finally start unraveling what was never yours to begin with.

And that’s real progress. 💪

---

👉 Curious what your open centers are?
Check your human design chart right here and look for the white shapes.
That’s where conditioning sneaks in—and where your biggest wisdom lives underneath it all.

---